“Moving on is easy, but what you leave behind is what makes it hard..”
What would be the reason for you to move to another country? Would you move because you have burning desire to experience new culture, meet new people? Find an amazing job and create better life for yourself? Would you follow your heart and move for the ones you love?
Last two years, I was moving quite a lot from one country to another. I was staying abroad for summer jobs or my studies. However, my time in the country has always had its “termination date”. I have always known that I am going to return back home, to Slovakia. After finishing studies in Rotterdam last summer, I had to make decision where I want to live. Great job opportunity in Slovakia has occured and I was quite happy to try to live in my “mother land” again. Country that I know everything about, with so many friends around. Then, just one week after returning to Slovakia I have started exciting job in Bratislava. I have spend whole summer working a lot, living adult life and trying to settle down. Firstly, I thought this can be “IT”. Though, things are not always going as we planned and inside I have started to get feeling that this is not what I should do with my life. I was just not happy and I knew that I need to move on. That was the time when opportunity to move to Sweden has occured. It was not such a difficult decision to make, with my family already living there, and then, in the middle of September I quitted my job in Bratislava, booked a plane tickets and within two weeks I was moving to Scandinavia. Little crazy me.
I have started another episode of my life called “Living in Sweden”. After some time I knew that moving to Sweden was the best thing that could happened to me. With my family around, enjoying my work and doing everything I wanted to do. Living totally different life from my life in Slovakia. More relaxed, more colorful, more interesting.
However, even if you are living the happiest life abroad, sometimes it can be a bumpy ride. During time in Sweden I have experienced several really bad days caused by language I could not understand, people with totally different cultural background (when stereotypes are not just stereotypes). Feeling alone and not understood. I have also experienced several phases of the cultural shock and just getting used to unpleasable weather condition can create lots of issues in your head. (Rain, rain, wind, rain, wind and little bit more rain – not so much fun when you are riding bicycle all the time).
Though, to be totally honest, what was messing with my head was the fact that I missed Slovakia so much. I could not commit to stay in Sweden, not just yet. I missed familiar faces, familiar places – things that mean world to me. That was reason why I was super excited to go back “home” for the Christmas holidays. I have spend amazing two weeks there but then I realized one thing. As much as I love Slovakia, life I want to live now is somewhere else – in Sweden. Sometimes you have to move on from the things that you love in order to grow. Even when it hurts.
With the new year I have finally committed to my life in Sweden. I am here and I am here to stay for longer time. Because it just feels right. Nobody knows what will happen and maybe everything will be different in the future. But I am happy now. I am still thinking about Slovakia every day. And I still miss it, and miss people there. Though, it is kind of different now.
Wherever in the world you are living, whatever are you doing, always follow your intuition and your heart (take a little bit of brain too, just in case). Try to find that special place that makes you feel comfortable, makes you feel happy and makes you feel like “home”. If you are thinking about moving to another country, just do it. It is scary and it is not easy but it is totally worth the try.